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Real Talk: It's Just Nipples



Identifying as a woman - what a shit show huh? I've talked about being a woman and all that it can involve before here on NB and although I'm always fiercely proud of being female and being strong, independent, and (don't worry, I'm not going to sing Beyoncé), supportive of all other women, it can be hard at times. Women are judged and scrutinised a lot by wider society and their inner circles and it's sometimes incredibly overwhelming to just walk down the street without the fear of catcalling being the least of your worries.

I'm not about to get my tiny violin out and start playing it but there is something I want to get off my chest that just so happens to be on my chest: what's the problem with nipples?

You heard me. Why, in 2018, are we still trying to "free the nipple" and just generally have full autonomy of our bodies without others unsolicited input? It's because we still don't have that simple "luxury". Back in July 2018, Brighton hosted a Free the Nipple march and it was a great success seeing people from all genders and identities taking to the streets to argue the case that having full ownership of our own bodies shouldn't be something we have to shout and argue for. We shouldn't be having to fight the double standards we see in reality and virtual reality alike yet, here we are.

The oppressiveness of the double standard issue surrounding all of this is one of the most damaging and surreal things about it all. If I were to be a visitor from another planet arriving on planet earth for the first time, I would honestly struggle to get my head around it. It has been widely accepted for someone who is genetically, and identifying as, a man to walk down the street topless during summer because evidently, it must just be far too hot for clothing. Whereas if someone with female breasts - because that's the real issue here - were to do the same or even minimise the "shock factor" by wearing a bikini top let's say, that's all too much and that individual would face ridicule, catcalling, and even potentially worse situations that would prey on their vulnerability. Discussing the issues around catcalling is a whole other post, but the difference in the treatment is baffling. Stripping it back further to fully demonstrate the double standard, I direct you to one of my most favourite apps to use - instagram.



Scrolling through instagram might result in seeing a man enjoying his holiday, getting selfies on the beach in his trunks and guess what? No mention of nipples. A woman wearing no bra and her nipples are visible? You can guarantee someone has mentioned it in the comments as if that woman didn't know what she was about or what her body is. I'm using this app as an example because I have seen some of my favourite artists draw female nipples - nipples on full breasts - of cartoon stylised characters and hyper-realistic women and they have been reported for nudity. Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but how can a cartoon nymph's nipples be more offensive to the sight than a naked man's? It's silly, right? Right. So I see these artists sharing their work in a shroud, having to cover areas of their paintings and drawings with pencils, brushes, emojis, anything to try to avoid the reports of indecent imagery coming flooding in. It's bizarre times we're living in.

Free the Nipple isn't a new movement but it feels like the progressiveness of it is slow and labouring which is demotivating. A movement that calls for self love, equality, and empowerment is falling short based on outdated views that should have never surfaced and been followed in society in the first place. Free the Nipple is a movement that needs support for all it's positive messages and it's inclusivity. I feel like many people - myself included - see the movement as something that is seeking equality mostly between the treatment of male and female bodies but it has so much depth to it.

We're still fighting for mother's rights to breastfeed in public without facing shame or being asked to do it elsewhere. We're still fighting the fact that the female body is sexualised a great deal and slut shaming is as prevalent as ever. We're still fighting unrealistic beauty standards and need to ensure that women *know* that their bodies are beautiful and unique. This idea that the female nipple is sexualised to such an extent that mothers can't feed their own children in public lies at the fault of those individuals who choose to sexualise it. It isn't anyone else's fault if your thoughts are sexual - that doesn't override the female body's functionality (or at least that is what I would shout from the rooftops but as Free the Nipple and similar movements exist, it's obviously not a point that is being accepted).

Movements such as Free the Nipple but also #saggyboobsmatter are not just some stint for feminism that's asking for equality. It's helping to educate so many females that we should love our bodies and that they're all beautiful in their vast array. We've all been swept along in what is "acceptable" in the realm of the beauty standard, but there's only one kind of beauty standard so for the majority of bodies that don't fit the very specific criteria, they are alienated. Self love should be practiced boldly, unashamedly, and regularly and accepting your body and knowing it's a perfectly good and happy body should be the mission of all society. Not only are these movements helping to educate females about self love, but it's helping show males that the female body is rich and varied too and is 100% a womans. Ownership lies with the individual and no one can or should take that away from them.

I've probably ranted for long enough here but it's so important to keep fighting for what's right. For equality, for slut shaming to end, for bodies to be accepted, and for full autonomy to be where it should always be: with us.




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